Quora问答:怎么样才能不嫉妒那些和你同龄但是比你成功很多的人?
How can you overcome your envy of people who are your age but are far more successful than you?
来源:http://www.quora.com/l/boq-matthew-manning
翻译:彭萦
Matthew Manning, Middle-Aged Soul
Emphatically stop giving a shit. 坚决地把那些人的成功当做P就好了
1. You have ZeRo idea what their personal lives are actually like, or if their outward appearance of success is total bullshit.
你其实根本不清楚那些人的私人生活是怎么样的,你也不清楚他们成功的那张外皮其实就是个P
2. Stop focusing outward, focus inward. A preoccupation with the success of others is taking time away from tending your own internal garden.
别总向着外面看了,多关注下你的内里。念念不忘他人的成功只会占用你打理你的内心花园的时间。
3. Believing in common measures of success (money, position, family) is believing in a ready-made lunch box of meaning that society is opening up and shoving down your throat. WHo CAReS. Figure out what success is for yourself and then just focus on pursuing that.
认可那些通俗的成功标准(钱、职位、家庭)其实相当于认可社会预先定做的午餐盒,你就那样打开来然后就吞了下去。谁在意那些东西呢?想一想成功对你自己来说意味着什么,然后专注于追求你自己的成功。
4. You are in your twenties, so be prepared to witness some epic personal collapses of those whom you are currently envious of.
你现在才二十多呢,等着看那些你现在很嫉妒的人在之后会遭遇的宏伟的巨大的失败吧。
5. You can't do anything besides what you can do. If you're giving it your all and staying focused on your values, then your life is progressing exactly as it should be. Did you
hear that? eXACTLY AS IT SHoULD Be.
你不可能做你力所能及之外的事情。如果你付出的足够多而且专注于你自己的价值观,你的人生会渐渐朝它应该去的方向迈进。你听明白了吗?会完全按照它应该去的方向。
6. When you have an episode of crippling self-doubt, picture each doubt as a single sheet of paper. Then crunch all of them together and throw them into the toilet of your mind. now angrily kick-flush that toilet with your foot.
当你自我怀疑并深受其害的时候,把每一个怀疑都想象成一张纸。然后把它们咔嚓擦揉在一起,扔进你大脑里的那个马桶内。现在用你的脚奋力一踹,把它们都冲下去。
7. Actively work to express gratitude for what you do have every morning. The happiest people I know are full of gratitude, and they are profoundly in touch with their innate talents.
每天清晨都主动地对你所有用的表示感恩。我认识的最快乐的人都是充满感恩的人,而且他们都万分珍视自己所拥有的禀赋。
8. Before you read number nine, think of at least one person who thinks you're awesome. Try to think of yourself as that person does.
当你在读第九条之前,回想一下有哪个人认为你非常棒的,至少想出一个。然后以那个人的视角来看你自己。
9. Isn't the universe so vast, so deep, so incredibly amazing? Who could possibly worry about a thirty two hundred dollar difference in salary when there are stars supernova-ing
right this very minute?
宇宙不是如此之广,如此之深,如此之美妙的吗?当此时此刻的每一秒钟都有那么多超新星爆发,谁还可能在意三千两百美元收入上的差异呢?
10. It's a marathon, not a sprint. near the finish line, you'll realize you've only been racing against yourself.
这是一场马拉松比赛,不是一次冲刺短跑。当你靠近终点线的时候,你终将明白,其实你只是在和你自己赛跑。
来源:http://www.quora.com/l/boq-matthew-manning
翻译:彭萦
Matthew Manning, Middle-Aged Soul
Emphatically stop giving a shit. 坚决地把那些人的成功当做P就好了
1. You have ZeRo idea what their personal lives are actually like, or if their outward appearance of success is total bullshit.
你其实根本不清楚那些人的私人生活是怎么样的,你也不清楚他们成功的那张外皮其实就是个P
2. Stop focusing outward, focus inward. A preoccupation with the success of others is taking time away from tending your own internal garden.
别总向着外面看了,多关注下你的内里。念念不忘他人的成功只会占用你打理你的内心花园的时间。
3. Believing in common measures of success (money, position, family) is believing in a ready-made lunch box of meaning that society is opening up and shoving down your throat. WHo CAReS. Figure out what success is for yourself and then just focus on pursuing that.
认可那些通俗的成功标准(钱、职位、家庭)其实相当于认可社会预先定做的午餐盒,你就那样打开来然后就吞了下去。谁在意那些东西呢?想一想成功对你自己来说意味着什么,然后专注于追求你自己的成功。
4. You are in your twenties, so be prepared to witness some epic personal collapses of those whom you are currently envious of.
你现在才二十多呢,等着看那些你现在很嫉妒的人在之后会遭遇的宏伟的巨大的失败吧。
5. You can't do anything besides what you can do. If you're giving it your all and staying focused on your values, then your life is progressing exactly as it should be. Did you
hear that? eXACTLY AS IT SHoULD Be.
你不可能做你力所能及之外的事情。如果你付出的足够多而且专注于你自己的价值观,你的人生会渐渐朝它应该去的方向迈进。你听明白了吗?会完全按照它应该去的方向。
6. When you have an episode of crippling self-doubt, picture each doubt as a single sheet of paper. Then crunch all of them together and throw them into the toilet of your mind. now angrily kick-flush that toilet with your foot.
当你自我怀疑并深受其害的时候,把每一个怀疑都想象成一张纸。然后把它们咔嚓擦揉在一起,扔进你大脑里的那个马桶内。现在用你的脚奋力一踹,把它们都冲下去。
7. Actively work to express gratitude for what you do have every morning. The happiest people I know are full of gratitude, and they are profoundly in touch with their innate talents.
每天清晨都主动地对你所有用的表示感恩。我认识的最快乐的人都是充满感恩的人,而且他们都万分珍视自己所拥有的禀赋。
8. Before you read number nine, think of at least one person who thinks you're awesome. Try to think of yourself as that person does.
当你在读第九条之前,回想一下有哪个人认为你非常棒的,至少想出一个。然后以那个人的视角来看你自己。
9. Isn't the universe so vast, so deep, so incredibly amazing? Who could possibly worry about a thirty two hundred dollar difference in salary when there are stars supernova-ing
right this very minute?
宇宙不是如此之广,如此之深,如此之美妙的吗?当此时此刻的每一秒钟都有那么多超新星爆发,谁还可能在意三千两百美元收入上的差异呢?
10. It's a marathon, not a sprint. near the finish line, you'll realize you've only been racing against yourself.
这是一场马拉松比赛,不是一次冲刺短跑。当你靠近终点线的时候,你终将明白,其实你只是在和你自己赛跑。
说的有道理!
high level self touching
you'll realize you've only been racing against yourself.
额 我怎么觉得酸葡萄心理居多哇
Thank U soooo much ^_^
只是和自己在赛跑。
说了和没说一样。
racing against myself
成语四个字就概括了:盖棺定论
心理得多阴暗啊。。。
+1
+1
1.5.9 说的挺好
11、别人成不成功关你P事
英文的知乎 = =。。。或者知乎是中文的QUORA。。。
FOCUS
It's a marathon, not a sprint. near the finish line, you'll realize you've only been racing against yourself.
前面几句有点“葡萄酸”情绪,后面的还蛮有道理。
这是一场马拉松比赛,不是一次冲刺短跑。当你靠近终点线的时候,你终将明白,其实你只是在和你自己赛跑。
嫉妒别人的成功有什么不好 起码有了个标杆
看不到别人的成功才是最大的失败
第1、4條特別酸。不過,我想这篇文若是写给属于第7条的有感恩之情和进取之心的人儿看,应该会有作用
最后一句是真理。
即使是冠军也需要有素人为他鼓掌 我觉得当个鼓掌的人蛮好的
我觉得别人过的好应该替人家高兴 谁都不容易 成功也都有代价 不该用他们有的和我没有的比,也不该用我有而他们没有的东西 让自己“心里平衡” 其实自己心态好了 别人怎样 和自己又有什么关系呢
有些错别字哟~
感觉沉寂了好久呀
文章就是为了让有嫉妒心理的人克服那种因嫉妒别人而痛苦的心理罢了,对症下药而已了,何必评论的那么认真。不适合你的,未必不适合别人。不喜勿喷,各有所需就好了嘛~
第四条稍有酸涩.哈哈 不过我更喜欢第5条
You can't do anything besides what you can do. If you're giving it your all and staying focused on your values, then your life is progressing exactly as it should be. Did you
hear that? eXACTLY AS IT SHoULD Be.
你不可能做你力所能及之外的事情。如果你付出的足够多而且专注于你自己的价值观,你的人生会渐渐朝它应该去的方向迈进。你听明白了吗?会完全按照它应该去的方向。
也许只有用所谓的‘葡萄酸’心里,才能让心怀嫉妒的人有一些comfort吧。。
自己不怎么嫉妒,可是真心架不住父母每天唠叨。。。。。。
+10086!
所谓嫉妒不嫉妒看个人怎么想,别人的成功在自己看来不是能力问题,是价值观选择问题,有时候也要点运气的,所以还是尽量做自己最好,当然难免受到外界干扰,客观理智一点准没错。。
同意~尤其是父母会拿自己身边的人来做对比,这种滋味太不好受啦~
说了跟没说一样+1
没错 你好善良啊
成功的标准好多,一时不要太在意,
+1
make sence
MARK
只是在和你自己赛跑。
第八条,认为身边成功的人,我发现我没想出来。
mark
还好有翻译·不然就咱这个小学文凭··真心看不懂!!
in the end, we will all experience envy of others. Forget about age- find out what it is you envy, and, and why. If someone is successful at something, find out how they did it, and learn whatever you need to emulate it.
只有让自己变得强大,自己有了事业后腰杆自然都硬了 所以,草根的朋友就只有通过自己创业来改变命运,看看他们是怎样一步一步改变命运的,这些火爆的项目等着你http://t.cn/zQaVQ7c
有时候别人的嫉妒会伴随着嘲讽让人厌恶至极,虽然你并没有那么好,这至少说明了你不是一只死狗。关于嫉妒别人,我觉得我没有必要去跟别人比,我只会欣赏,然后借鉴。我的时间要用来奔跑,看见更蓝更广阔的天空。加油,亲爱的自己。
有种阿Q精神的意思,,,
感觉嫉妒没啥不好吧
我已20多但是一无是处
我20多了,一无是处,更要命的是嫉妒那些念书好的,事业成功的,钱挣得多的同学。
。。关键是我有蛮多朋友都是比我大个四五岁的,当然也成功很多。我都嫉妒,,虽然也会跟自己说,我到时候比他们还好。。但是还是免不了嫉妒啊啊啊
你的心有多大,你的世界就有多大
呵呵,不要嫉妒,要羡慕,这样你才会以乐观的心态去拼搏!
越到最后,越能体会,自己才是自己真正的对手。别人怎么样,都是别人的事情。也许他付出了你看不到的坚信,有很多未知的因素。专注自己的成功,当作事业,把时间花在自己身上,才是王道
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其实你只是在和你自己赛跑。
瞬间感觉人生其实是个单机游戏。。。
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